7 Things Happy People Have In Common

7 Things Happy People Have In Common






Ever notice how some people just seem to be able to be content and
in good spirits no matter what the circumstances? Research shows
that this isn't a gift or a talent - it's a skill that they have
developed. Surprised? Well, the real surprise is that you too can
put to work their techniques and make your life happier too.

1. Happy people cooperate with life.
Each person has a destiny to fulfill. You can fight it or cooperate
with it. Does that mean you just lay back and let life happen? No.
But you can adopt the attitude that you will play the cards you are
dealt the very best you can. When you begin to cooperate with life,
you will notice new ways in which you are motivated. Life wants you
to realize your destiny. Wouldn't you rather cooperate than battle
with life?

2. Happy people don't think positive.
They ACT positive. Thinking positive definitely has its place, and
you'll need to change your thoughts to ever be truly happy. But
don't wait on the feelings to come. You have direct control over how
you act and what you think (feelings and physiology are indirectly
affected). Feeling better begins with controlling your behavior. If
you want to be a happier person, act happier. If you want to be a
more compassionate person, act more compassionate. If you want to be
a friendlier person, act friendlier. The mind will follow.

3. Happy people ask for what they need.
Good things don't generally just fall out of the sky. Complaining
gets you nothing, except to attract you to other complainers. If you
believe that "you reap what you sow", then asking for what you want
makes much more sense than sowing complaints. It's your choice-- you
can choose to point fingers and assign blame, and still end up with
nothing. Or you can simply ask.

4. Happy people are willing to change.
It's contrary to all laws of nature for things to stand still. If
you try to make that happen, you'll always be disappointed. If you
let fear of change stop you, you are in essence agreeing to not
having what you want. You can believe that change will harm you and
resist it. Or you can embrace it and believe that it will help you
It all depends on what you decide to believe.

5. Happy people don't allow themselves to be defeated.
A failure or setback does not mean that the goal will never be
yours, nor is it evidence that you should quit. It simply means that
you need more practice, more experience, maybe a different method.
Be willing to make mistakes. Don't give up. Don't allow one slipup,
or setback from the outside, influence you to erase all the progress
you've made. Feel the joy of the finish line!

6. Happy people live in the present.
If you are alert to the present, and anticipating the future, you
are better able to take advantage of opportunities. If you are
brooding over the past, you'll be blinded to present possibilities,
and lose the advantage for future prospects. A happy life is the
product of living a great present. And a well lived present is a
guarantee of a wonderful future. You can only affect your future by
what you do today.

7. Happy people plan ahead.
Happy people know that they must exercise mastery in their lives,
show control in their life in order to guard against feelings of
being helpless and victims. Planning is essential to getting things
done. Planning is essential to making sure you are spending time on
your priorities, and not just the next thing that gets your
attention. Eliminate distractions so that you can focus on what's
important to you without losing your focus or energy.


Kathy Gates, RealLifeCoach.com